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Trust issues
In the past I had an affair with this woman. In short nine years later I am on my own and she has recently got engaged. Throughout the interveneving years we keep on coming back to each other but I for one reason and the other never really expressed how I felt. When D got engaged shortly after she contacted me and said she actually loved me. Over the past 2.5months we have been seeing each other regularly and D says she wants to be with me and that she loves me. To make this easier I have moved house (I moved 50 miles). I did not place any conditions on the move. All I asked was the reassurance that she loved me and wanted us to be togeather. D is still living with her fiancee. She has now said that she is having trust issues of me. She believes that I have lots of women on the go. Which I do not I am only seeing D and have no interest in anyone else. It seems to me that she is basing this on how i used to act when i was younger. I agree I was flirtatious back then. But now I am a much more mature person. I truly love D and worry she will not get over the trust issues. I have moved home to make it easier and to demonstrate that I am serious. i actually made this happen within 17 days of us discussing it. I have thoguht about asking D if she would consider attending a joint councelling session? I'm not sure what else I can do. i love her deeply and would not hurt her but my words don't seem enough :(
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Gosh, that sounds like a pretty difficult situation...from what you say about yourself you were not particularly trustworthy when you were younger...and if she knew you 9 years ago she probably knows what you were like. However, do you have trust issues with her? She is telling you she loves you and still living with her fiance! Your thought of some couple counselling is a good one ....it is very hard to let yourself love another person as fully as you seem to love D. It makes us feel so vulnerable. Look at some of the relationship insight on the sight and see if D will discuss them with you. Let us know if you can persuade her to go to counselling with you.
Oops..I meant to write 'relationship issues on this site' above.. for example http://thecoupleconnection.net/relationship_insights/changes-and-stages-of-a-relationship and http://thecoupleconnection.net/relationship_insights/circle-of-thoughts-feelings-and-behaviour Hope this helps.