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Trust issues
Hi, so here's the problem... I've been with my partner
For 2 years now, and we've been living together for
10 months, a few months ago I found text msgs
And emails (dirty) with a girl from his work, I confronted
Him straight away, and he told me to get out of
His house, we split for only a week then got back
Together, he said I needed to trust nothing was
Physically happening between them and it was just
"work banter" not long after this I went out with friends
And stayed over the night, he went out with his brother
And his brother informed me (mistakingly) that they
Brought a girl back to our home, I was so angry and
Upset but again we worked it out. And then around 2
Months ago I found more emails from this girl from
Work, I wanted to leave him, but I really believe that
He's the only guy for me, I love him so much!!
In all of this he still constantly keeps In contact
With his ex girlfriend who he was engaged too!
I'm constantly checking his phone etc and it's driving
Me insane!! I know I need to trust him for our
Relationship to work, but I don't know how!!
I believe that nothing physical has happened with
Anyone, but I know he's very flirtatious and forward.
I need help on how to trust him again. If anyone can
It would be ver appreciated, thankyou
Comments
Hi, This story sounds so similar to what happened to me 5 years ago! I met my ex when I was 19, we were together 2 and a half years, we fell in love really quickly and were engaged after 6 months, 2 months after that I found dirty texts to some random girl on his phone. I went back to him because I truly believed he was ''the one''! I later moved in with him and a few months after that, the same thing happened. Some girl kept ringing and texting him, i finally got hold of her number and called her, she told me they were sleeping together and asked me if I was his crazy ex! He said she was lying, he cried and I went back to him. We moved into a new house and within 3 months he was back to his old tricks, I found a box of unopened condoms, he also stop being affectionate with me and was hiding his phone (turned off)!! in a cupboard once he got home from work. I turned into some crazy girlfriend, playing detective and it drove me insane. I would check his pockets, smell his jumpers and watch him leave the house. In the end I found one of the condoms missing and i finally left him. When I look back now, I cannot believe I stayed and forgave the man so many times, he wasn't even that great! Your boyfriend will not stop doing this to you because you keep going back to him and that makes him think it is ok. He is being so disrespectful to you. I promise you, he is not the only guy for you, i have now met an amazing man, who is now my fiance and treats me like a princess.