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Tired of my husband and our sexual life

User-anonymous
Posted by: Anonymous
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Tue 20, Dec 2016 at 11:02pm
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Sex/Intimacy and romance, Communications in relationships, A Psychologist's Perspective, Sex and Affairs

My husband and I have been married for 4 years this year and have been together in total for 7 years. We starting dating when I was 19 and he was 24 years old. In terms of relationship wise we have a pretty health relationship and are happy. The problem is our sexual relationship. Unfortunately, this year in total we have only had sex 9 times. In the beginning like most relationships you have sex quite often. However, that died quite quickly we weren't even a year together when it started. I've tried talking about it but he gets upset. I've tried to ask him how we can improve and what he like doing to see if it helps, but the excuse has always been I'm tired. If I don't iniate for us to have sexual relations, there won't be any. It is quite sad as I have not had any problems with previous boyfriends and I've tried to give him time and be supportive but have had enough. This month I've borrowed him my laptop as he was waiting to get his new one delivered and I found lots of porn on the recycle bin. The issue isn't so much that he is watching porn but it upset me the quantity of porn. It also mkes me think is he satisfied from prom and could be one of the reasons why he doesn't want to have sex. Also I keep very active and tried to sex things up, but we've disccused and he has said he is still attracted to me and does like having sex but personally I don't think one a month if your lucky is good enough. I'm also not pleased by the quantity of porn he is watching. Can any one advise or share form their experience. I love him and do want to stay together but sex is a very important part within any relationship. Thanks.

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  • Cc admin Flag

    Thanks for sharing your story. You're not alone - this topic comes up fairly frequently on the forums. I'm sorry you've not had a response yet. You might find it helpful to read the article linked below (and the related articles linked within). Some of the comments there might be helpful too:

    http://thecoupleconnection.net/articles/my-partner-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-any-more-help

    Mon 9, Jan 2017 at 11:29am
  • User-anonymous Anonymous Flag

    Thank you for the reply and will have a read.

    Mon 9, Jan 2017 at 11:36am
  • User-anonymous kamilla Flag

    You have to make it clear to him what you need. He has to respect that. If he doesn't, it's a lost cause and you have to give up on him. A good husband would try to cooperate. But sometimes men are selfish. Talk it out. And the porn thing really is harmless in my opinion.

    Fri 10, Feb 2017 at 1:09am

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