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Split up with partner after 14 years
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Wed 31, Oct 2012 at 1:00pm
Hi I have recently split with my partner after 14 years she says she has no more to give in the relationship and her feelings have changed towards me . I love her too bits and the last thing want to do is spend my life without her he is my sole mate we get out so well when we go out and like together alot meals etc.. We he been apart for 4 weeks now but I'm in bits can't sleep eat and am on depression tablets . We have met for a meal last week and got on really well but then when back to her says she just wants be friends . What can I do to try changed her mind ??
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I wonder for how long you have been on depression tablets. Was your depression a part of the reason why you have parted? You don't mention sex at all, was that a good feature of your 14 year relationship? I just think if you want to be interesting to someone, it is well worth finding things that interest you, and doing these things will automatically make you into a more interesting person. If you are pleading with her to return to you just because you are miserable without her (and I am not saying you are doing this, I'm not sure) then why would she want to return to this relationship. Perhaps think about the person you really are (and perhaps this is the person you were before you met her) and start being that person again doing the things that fulfilled you. This is worht doing, ie. finding yourself, whether she returns to you or not. Because you will be fulfilling your own life which will be full of interest and challenge. It would be good to hear how you get on. Keep in touch on the Forum.