So unsure of a great relationship
I'm new to this website and I joined to see if I could get some help and advice. I am 27 years old and having been going out with my partner for four years, engaged for just over a year and living together for nearly a year. We were due to get married in October but I postponed the wedding. He is from N.Z and his family had arranged to come over, but he was very supportive of me through a difficult time. I had moved house and jobs to be closer to him and found he was not around very much (he is in the forces and away for long periods). As we were planning the wedding I started to panic and became quite depressed and very unsure about our relationship. I was quite unwell with it, but after a long summer off work and a holiday away together and the knowledge that the wedding was postponed I felt much better. The problem is I cannot stop thinking about whether or not to get married, whether it is right and why I am feeling so unsure about things. I love my partner and he is such a wonderful person, he cares for me so deeply and has only ever treated me with love and respect. My friends think I don't know how lucky I am. I just have this uneasy feeling, but no idea of why. I wish I could get rid of it but I become more and more obsessed about our relationship, if it is 'right' and comparing it with other people around me. I don't know what to do or where this is coming from. I am worried it is an inner voice telling me things aren't right that he is not 'the one' for me. I become sad sometimes and am not always as kind to him as he is to me. I wish I could work things out, make a decision and get on with my life. Has anyone else been in a great relationship but not got the feeling that 'he's the one'. Am I being so silly to obsess over these feelings or lack of them?