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Finding Time for Each Other, Friends & Family, Making a Commitment

id been with my ex for over three years and a year into the relationship i proposed to her because i couldnt see myself not being with her, she accepted and told me the same thing. the relationship was amazing both physical and emotional, all her freinds liked me and i thought i got along with her parents. my family fell in love with her and doted on her all the time. when we got engaged she moved in with me and things got even better. however i started noticing diferent things and later found out she was flirting and seeing other guys, i hurt like hell but i asked her to explain why, she said she felt insecure when i wasnt there, so she wanted people there. she had a rough few years before she met me, she was drinkin and sleeping with different guys and doing drugs, skiving college and work and self harming but i put a stop to it all, i got her of the drugs and drink and walked with her to college so i know she went, i encouraged her to be confident and stand up for herself. she passed her college course with distinctions, i taught her to drive because her parents couldnt be bothered, i helped her get in to the next level course. i payed all the bills, food, travel, put fuel in her car. her parents did nothing. i sat down with her and made a 5 year plan for her so she had a goal to strive for, she needed a job in the same trade as what she was learning so i drove with her to drop out cvs and showed her how to apply and interview correctly. anyways il get to the point three weeks ago out of knowhere she comes over and tells me she's ending the relationship, no explaination. i went abit out of my mind because she wouldnt even talk to me, until a week or so after to ask me to meet her for a drink. when i met her she told me she couldnt take her parents always having a go at her for being with me, they wont give her a reason for not liking me they just dont like me. but she didnt want to split with me as she still loves me, she asked if we could get bak together but to keep it quiet from her parents. which i agreed to. but her parents found out and gave her the ultimatum to lose me or lose them, she was really upset and came to talk to me, i knew who she'd choose because she's scared she'll lose her family, but i couldnt make her choose as it was hurting her, so i walked away and told her she would not see me again. that night she called me in tears and told me she misses me so much. its been a couple of days since iv spoken to her and her parents have convinced her she needs to move closer to her job which is over and hour from where i live and they are now flooding her with gifts. all my freinds and her freinds are siding with her and i feel like im being punished and excilled for doing nothing wrong. im hoping soo much that she realises we are good together and gets in contact with me, but a few of her and my guy mates are already moving in trying to get her to meet them for drinks and going to the movies. its starting to anger me and i know i shouldnt get involved but some of the guys are real scumbags who will use her and hurt her.