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Should i stay or should i go?
Basically this issue all boils down to my bfs ex gf...
They were in a relationship for almost 2 years and she had a son which my partner bonded with. After the relationship ended they continued to talk but just for my partner to see the little boy.
This i could deal with as it purely was jsut for the little boy. But since then he's become 'good friends' with her again and now wont stop talking to her and saying inappropriate things. i once found a message from him to her asking for sex and went mental about it yet nothing changed... i then continued to find inappropriate messages where he's called her 'my lucy' and asked to stay adding 'you know i'll make it worth your while' he says he didnt mean it in the way i took it and she wouldnt of either but what am i meant to think?? He's also been meeting her secretly to go for 'lunch'...
Ive said to him many times its me or her and every time he chooses her!!! I cant leave him coz funnily enough i truly love him..
Yet if he doesnt stop this i may just have to take my son and go!!!
Any ideas anyone? Ive tried talking to him and discussing all of this but he just seems to ignore it and doesnt ever take it on board! :(
Comments
Hi,
Wow. He does not sound like a very nice man at all, and this cannot be a good environment for your son. As tempted as you are you cannot runaway with your son. He needs his father. It is wrong to behave that way.
However this man does not love you or respect you otherwise he would not behave that way. I think you know that it would be best to live away from this man and not be in a relationship with him. Children can always tell when there is turbulance in a relationship and it can effect their behaviour later on in life. However you must remain close enough distance so your son can spend time with you both. You must also remain polite to eachother in front of the child no matter what happens otherwise he will copy what you are both doing.
Hope that helps.
Hi
You just summed it up for yourself, you said he always chooses her over you.
You can't keep allowing him to walk all over you, just because you love him.
You deserve better and so does your son!
Hi, why not join the discussion tomorrow night ...it has the same title as your post 'should I stay or should I go?' You might have made your decision by now and it will be good to hear how you are getting on.