I really need some help as I am dont know what to do! I am 37 and my bf is 34 and we have been together for 4 months now. At the beginning of the relationship we were unable to have sex as he wouldn't wear a condom so I wanted him to get checked out to be safe knowing some of his sexual history. Then when all the tests came back clear it was weird and he told me that he was nervous about having sex with me. We had sex a couple of times but he did not climax and then he just stopped trying, we have had sex but not regular and not for 8 weeks now! We have spoken about it at length, but he is unable to identify the issue except he just doesn't see me as a sexual object, but as a future wife.
We have the most amazing relationship and love each other dearly but we just don't have sex and it is tearing us apart, we have split up over it but always end up back together as we don't seem to be able to stay apart.
I'm not sure why this is happening I have tried instigating it, wearing sexy underwear, suggested dressing up and even said he could have a porno on in the background but he rejects me every time, I love him so much that I feel reluctant to give up without a fight but don't know what else to try!