I am in a relationship with someone who cannot accept my kids from a previous marriage. She has no kids, and doesnt want them, but tried as she wanted to be with me. But we experience constant problems and she wont accept my kids into our relationship.
For the last 2 years I have had to keep my relationship separate from my children and its hard work.
We have broken up several times as everyday things that involve my kids create issues and rows. The kids live with their mom and i have access. Currently we have split up and i see my ids 3 weekends a month but we want to try again and she has told me i would have to return to alternate weekends to give us any chance, and agree to keep my kids separate from our relationship.
I dont know if I am being unfair to her by not dedicating time to build our relationship away from my kids, or she is being unfair to me by not accepting my kids. She knew i had children when we got together, but am i right to expect her to accept them unconditionally? Should i expect a period of time where i have to put my relationship as a priority and focus time to grow it? Im so confused, i find it almost impossible to set a happy balance to keep everyone happy and im at my wits end.
Please, if anyone can offer some friends advice that would be great.