Really long term relationship with major issues
My heart goes out to all of you whose posts I read about problems in relationships of a few years or even a few months.
Looking at it from the long perspective (over 40 years) I wish you all courage and inner strength above anything else. Without those you will never fix things - whether by dialogue or exit. Whatever you do - fix it as soon as you can.
That said, you may have guessed I am in a very long relationship that is in a pretty desperate state. I'm looking for support from somebody with parallel experience. Have you managed to improve things? How?