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Problem with ejaculation
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Fri 20, Jul 2012 at 7:21pm
Hello everyone this is my first post, I hope you help me.
I'm with my girlfriend for 5 months. We love each other, but still in our relationship something is going wrong. She doesn't have an orgasm in any position, She isn't happy and I can't satisfy her. however I've got some problems with ejaculation, my orgasm's really fast, this is the reason? Can I do something about it ?
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Not sure if this will be very useful, but try using positions that are better for her (ann summers do some good books on this) and maybe spend longer on foreplay stimulating her. As for the second bit, when it feels like you're nearing orgasm, stop and allow it to dissappear before continuing, should allow you to last a bit longer. Also there are gels and creams and that, that can allow you to last longer (ann summers also does these). Hope it helped.
More info here:-
http://www.patient.co.uk/doctor/Premature-Ejaculation-and-Psychogenic-Impotence.htm
You could also try using desensitising creams, and there are sheaths that will desensitise you while also stimulating your partner – google will find.
Bringing her nearly to orgasm before entering her may also help.
If none of the above helps, check things out with GP, and ask about referral to a therapist – or Relate (relate.org.uk) have psychosexual counsellors in some branches.
Be sure to ask your gf about what stimulates her the most, and where - something that can easily get overlooked. Keep in mind that there are various ways of stimulating her to orgasm other than penile penetration.
Good luck
Sky
You are not alone. I have exactly the same problem. I do not know what to do .. Somebody help.
I'm so miserable and my woman with me too ...
Is she yours first woman? When did you lost virginity and how often did you have sex? Do you have problem only when you have sex with her? I heard that that 99% of problems with ejaculation are caused by mental problems.
The both of you have to talk to each other about it, try positions that she likes. Set the mood, lots of fore play at least 10 mins of massaging, rubbing, slight touching (caressing), and kissing. This is a mental thing and to overcome it you both have to take it slow and have the confidence that you'll achieve orgasm together. Clitoral stimulation is key in some cases so try rubbing or oral. Hopes this helps. Also stress plays a lot of the role. Make sure you two are completely relaxed, that's what the massage is for. Let me know if this works, it worked for me and my gf. Also masturbating about 3 hours before intercourse can take away the anxiety from climaxing fast or when u don't want to when the both of u engage. Remember this is mental and relieve yourself of stress as well as her.