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please help me - i don't know what to do any more!!! i think I'm giving up...:( sorry for the long post...
Hi - I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 43. I know is a massive age gap, but i love him with all my heart since the first day i saw him. we've been together 4 years now. When we first got together I was on his computer and I saw messages from him to his ex, saying how much he loves her and wants her back... I cried and cried - he came home and I confronted him. He lied to me and then I showed him the messages. We stayed together and everything was great, but since this day I couldn't trust him any more... I all my suspicions are almost always right. I do check up on him -I know it's wrong and every time when he is been up to something I suffer, but I want to know the truth and if I ask him he would lie to me... I've seen messages to his mate - saying that soon it will be over between us...
Found out he registered himself in a dating sait and he was giving his phone number to women... Facebook flirting and all sorts. But four days ago he went on page on facebook for selling staff and he found a "Cars clock" for his nephew - so he said let's go and buy it. So he made me text that person who was selling it and we went over there. I was sitting in the car and there was that blonde woman - she gave him the clock and we left. I didn't think anything more of it untill the next day. When my boyfriend turn around and said that she is selling Tomas the tank engine puzzels. I thought something is going wrong, so I went on his facebook and there was the proof - he was talking with her. The same night he had a message - I asked him what was it and he said - " oooo nothing - somebody wants to come and see the car!". I knew he was lying, because I saw her name. I asked him why is he lying to me and then he turn around and said that she said we can go on saturday to pick up the puzzels. But when I checked his messages - he was going the next day at 1 o'clock. and apparantly they going to meet again. I don't know what to do I'm crying non stop and I feel like I'm cracking down... please help me - give me some advise :((((((((
O just to add we haven't had sex for over 3 months now , if not 4-5 I lost count... ;(((((
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If he behaves as you say he does, you need to ask yourself what it is in you that makes you love someone who lies and is unfaithful? You were 22 when you got together, so very young. It may be that you need to take stock, is this what you want out of a long term relationship. It does not sound like he wants to change. Sometimes the pain of breaking up is worth it, it at least gives you the opportunity to think through why you think you don't deserve better than this.. ...you do! What do you think?