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New girl, needs time?
Hi all Daniel here.
im 23 and have recently been seeing a girl for around 6 weeks, shes an old flame i have known a long time and we both say we have thought about each other since we got together for a short while back in school.
Anyhow things have been absolutely amazing with her for the past 6 weeks, everything i thought it would be tbh.
Then...she said she needs some space to have a think about where she wants to go with us, she said that getting together with me had been a long time coming, and if she does get with me she wants it to be the real deal.
so, shes gone from lying in my arms on Saturday night telling me shes fallen from me, to not wanting to see me for a while.
What is the best thing to do, play it cool and not bother her too much?
i have 12 months ago come out of a 5 year relationship and this girl in question makes me feel like no other girl i have met, and she says the same to, she says its not the end for sure, and we will definatley meet again.
Am i just being a tad insecure?
your thoughts welcome
Comments
Maybe she feels things are going a bit too fast and needs to step back for a while? Tough for you when things were going well but for the moment I think all you can do is to respect your girlfriend's wishes. I hope things work out.
Hi there,
well.....spent all day together today, we had sex........knew straight away afterwards that our time together was over.....for now.
She said shed never forget me and one day well be together but at the moment her head isnt straight, i certainly wont forget her, we will meet again....one day.
:(
It's not the answer you wanted but at least you know where you are now.
Im gutted, but i feel stupid? I didnt feel like this when i split up with the girl i was with for 5 years lol
Owell, i better start putting in more effort back into my business it has been slightly neglected the past few weeks.
Regards Daniel.
Hello again, looking for more words of advice.......
i really dont think this is the end of it all, i dont think i am being niaeve, just i know there is something there, shes admitted to knowing it too.
Last night, we had sex we then talked for a bit then we went out to get a takeaway....this is when she said that it didnt feel the same after the sex somehow, i said "well what do you want to do?" she said she didnt know but she didnt really want to stop seeing me but feels that she should, she never said forever just "for now"? When i took her home again it took her along time to get out the car....we both got upset...and she hugged me for what seemed like 10 minutes, we kissed for a long time etc etc then eventually she got out.
So now it has sort of been left as "sort of over/see you in a few weeks maybe never/aint gotta clue"?
Anyhow, we exchanged a few texts last night sort of saying bye, she said "ill never forget you dan" "cya baby"?
And today i noticed she left something in my car so i text her to see if she wanted it back she said she werent bothered, so i said "ok, see you soon *****" she text back saying "i hope so xxxx" then she randomly text me later on sayin she had just seen me and my sister?
shes also liked my facebook stuff a few times today?
Any help on deciphering this? Is no contact the best way?
The strange thing is i thought i could shrugg this off? But me and this girl go back a long way and i simply just cannot :s
Im 23 and have been in business 6 years, i have dealt with multiple legal battles, huge financial stresses, family problems,the break up of a 5 year long relationship because she had slept with various different idiots, plus all sorts of mind testing situations. i really thought i was tough and wouldnt get like this again.
Man i need help. for the time being i shall not contact her.