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Getting on Better with my Partner

For two and a half years, I was best friends with this girl, 'Katie'. In grade twelve we went to Cancun together for our grad trip, during the trip we realized how long we had been in love with each other and started dating. It was so beautiful and so perfect, until my brain shut off, I didn't feel like myself and we broke up. During our time apart, I was sexually assaulted, a friend contacted Katie and suggested to rebuild a friendship, this friendship turned into a relationship, unfortunately, nothing changed I was much worse after the assault and still dealing with the death of my mother. Last month she broke up with me to deal with my issues, she said things like we want to work on this together but we can't, we need to be lone wolves, we need time and space right now, we can't be together right now. This I feel gave me mixed messages, I have been in therapy for the issues and have been journalling about this, but I feel like it's hard to proceed without knowing. I asked some of our mutual friends about it but they all come up with different answers of how she feels. I would like a relationship with her, some of my friends tell me she's over it, but I feel like I know her so well that she's almost convincing herself of this. How should I proceed in rebuilding a relationship and forgetting the past. She says she just needed some time and space and mutual friends say give it a month since she jut moved into a new place with new roommates and has other stressors. What should I do and say ??