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My sex problem
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Tue 17, Jul 2012 at 2:56pm
I'm with my girlfriend for two years, between us has been very good, we like to spend time together, we have common interests. She's my ideal.
Our only problem is sex. I can't endure longer than a few minutes. I get nervous about it and I don't want to have sex, because I am afraid of another failure. My girlfriend doesn't give me the feeling that something is wrong, but I feel that she isn't completely satisfied with our sex. I don't know what to do, I can't control it.
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hey - i think ur bein really brave for posting this. My hubby tells me he is worried about his equiment letting him down so he doesnt come near me which I just hate cuz it makes me feel awful so...... my advice babes....keep trying, keep telling her and showing her how much you love her and above all else....keep talking...I know there are tecniques you can use to pro long an errection BUT I think - theres more to good loving than just penetrative sex- if you satisfy her 1st - it wont matter too much how long you last - if you get my drift....
Try googling with 'premature ejaculation' and 'erectile dysfunction', and see if any of what you find helps.
Sex and anxiety are a really bad combination, so doing all that you can to relax will help.
If you haven't already discussed your worries with your gf, then I suggest you do.
There are many ways of making love and satisfying your partner other than penile penetration.
So when you discuss this with her, try suggesting that you broaden your lovemaking by using more varied ways of stimulating and satisfying her, and maybe putting penetrative sex on the back burner for a while.
If you don’t have one already, get a sex manual and brush up on the various ways of making love.
Massage is a great way of relaxing and getting into the right mood, and you can use it to lead into the various techniques you intend to try out.
Ask your gf what she likes, and where her really sensitive spots are – she knows what can please her better than anyone else.
Talking about sex, planning sex, and all the aspects of experimentation, can be really sexy, so don’t worry about opening up the subject with your girlfriend.
Focusing on the process of making love, rather than the outcome you are aiming for, can help a lot with relaxing and becoming more adept at satisfying your partner. Once you have become more occupied with the process, chances are the other bits will fall into place.
Don’t forget to tell her what you like as well.
Sky
Their are giving you a very good advices, you truly need to talk with her and maybe together you will find a answer or a solution how to make it better, also on the web there are plenty of trainings how to control your premature ejaculation. I wish you luck :)
Primo, not run away from it :) Practice makes perfect
Second, practice, try to keep an erection longer. Think of something less erotic. Seek expert advice. For sure it will succeed. Good luck
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Skywalker, thanks for the comprehensive answer. I know that nerves don't help me, I'll have to try to relax. I'll try to give her pleasure in a different way and focus more on the needs of my girlfriend.
I was looking on the internet already, even how to deal with this problem. There are various books, guides, courses, but I don't know if this can help.