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Affairs & Jealousy

I have been with my partner for eight years and we have to young children.
He has always claimed that I'm his soulmate, the reason he went "through lots of women" in order to find and that he could never understand why as beautiful as I am, I chose him.

Our first two years were fantastic but then became more challenging due to financial pressures. Through his phone I discovered he had cheated on me with a random girl in a night club, whilst they didn't have sex, foreplay occured. He said he was so out of it and blamed drink but even so he was texting her when sober? He was full of remorse and begged me to forgive him which I did.

A few years later we had our first child and when whowas six months old when I discovered he had had another sexual encounter. Again it wasn't sexual intercourse, she performed a sex act on him (she confirmed this to me when asked) and this was in the same room where my baby slept!. He was distraught when I told him to leave and he seemed to make it seem better in that he's never had sexual intercourse with them. After much thought and because of our baby I forgave him.

Now 3 years on and another baby with him, my mum has confinded in me that two weeks ago when we had all been drinking at hers, he came into her room, lifted the duvet and licked her breast. She said he then just walked out the room. She felt violated and didn't say anything in the hope that he thought it was me. But now the other day when she was staying at our house, again after drink, he went into the guest room hugged her but then cupped her breast. She quickly came into my room to divert him and started a conversation with me. I was not aware until the following day when she plucked up courage to tell me. My whole world has fallen apart. I've kicked him out and feel sick to my core. He says the first time he cant remember and the second had no sexual intent, he sought comfort from her. He's been to the doctor and is going to have counselling and sex addition help and he's begging forgiveness and wont stop texting/calling me. He says I shouldn't give up on him for our love and the children and that together he can get better. I can't even be around him or talk to my mum whom I am so close to. I cant bear to look at the desires of his affection. She and his parents seem to think we should work at it for the childrens sake. I feel like a mug. he's done this 3 times to me and my mum for crying out! I feel like this is a nightmare and cant tell anyone. Please help me. If it were a friend of mine i'd tell her to get rid so why I am even considering helping him?