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Finding Time for Each Other, Affairs & Jealousy, Getting on Better with my Partner

I have been with my fiance for 5 and half years, we have a 4 year old daughter and last year I had 4 miscarriages which wasn't a very good year. My fiance and I (unknown to me), were drifting apart because of the pressur and he developed a friendly relationship with a gil at work. This was 5 months ago. This friendly releationship, the shoulder to cry on became a bit stronger and I found out, before anything serious happened, he said he ended it. Then I found out it hadn't and he said he ended it again for she was only a distraction. My fiance moved out 11 weeks ago and 10 weeks ago seen this girl again, and she got pregnant, she was on the pill???. He was living at a friends house alone, then he had to move and moved in with her, said she was having his baby and he had to, although he has a daughter here who needs him desperately. She has miscarried recently and I'm not sure how to try and get him back. Do I play it cool and try a work through a series of "family" days out to let him see what he's missing, do I tell him my feelings over and over and see if he will come back, do I make him see what he's doing to the child he already has? I know you might think I am stupid for wanting him back but I can't help it, we had a fantastic life before this happened and I feel like everything happens for a reason, now she's miscarried is that the opportunity I am going to get? My daughter is very advanced for a 4 year old but still a baby, she keeps asking when we are going on holiday and really excited about it, I haven't told her anything is the matter yet because we have been saying daddy's at work? He says its too late because of everything that's happened over the last 5 months, but i'm trying to get him to remember the good times we had and how important it is for our daughter to be able to do the things she enjoys. He says he feels bad for what hes done to me and can't really look at me in the eye