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I have been with my girlfriend for 4 odd years, shes 26 and i am 31. We have had no issues when it comes to sharing and how much we care for each other.Initially when we decided to have a relationship it was clear we will have obstacles, mainly the fact that i am a Buddhist and she is a Christian. She always said that we will have issues once she breaks it to her parents because they insist she marries a Christian, whereas my parents have no issue about it at all. She is yet to approach her folks and have been delaying it for various reasons, her financial situation, her career. I want her to take the next step and let her parents know i exist in her life, i just don't know how to make her feel comfortable to make this happen. She says that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me but the constant delaying is making me ask questions and i do not want to put her under pressure. When ever i bring it up, she gets angry and the whole conversation is blown out of proportion and she ends up saying i screw up the moment. Yes she has finance issues as she has a spending habit which she cant breakaway from no matter how many people advice her. I want to fix this, and i don't know how
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I was interested to read your post and see how you and your girlfriend have enjoyed your relationship despite coming from two different backgrounds.
Lots couples will be coming from different backgrounds some more different than others. Its in how you manage your relationship thats the key to its long term success. I'm wondering whats causing your gf her dilemma -is it the religious differences or is the difficulty surrounding her finanacial difficulties? Both of these issues could be making it challenging for your gf or it may be that shes concerned about her parents reaction to your news or maybe their lack of understanding of other beliefs.
I say this from the point of view of someone coming from one branch of a Christianity marrying someone from another branch of Christanity - even individuals from the same religious backgrounds but from different strands can have challenges. What I found is that both families realised we loved each other, were there for the long term and we still are after 25 years!
It sounds to me that you are really there for your gf and Im sure she knows that but maybe thats your starting point -just let her know you are there for her, how much you love her and that you will be there whatever she decides to do. For me love is your base and if that is strong then you can work it out.
I hope you can talk to your gf without the agruement but with loving support and hope you post again to update us on yr situation.