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I think I like her, more than she likes me.
Hello,
I have been in a relationship with a girl for 5 months.
We met online, and exchanged a few messages before going to meet her. She is amazing and I want to spend more and more time with her.
The first months were great, we would make time to see each other at least 2-3 times a week and we would have a great time. We even went on holiday after just 2 months together!
We haven't had any arguments, and I thought that things were great.
However...
Recently she has been seeming a little distant, we only meet up once a week, maybe twice on occasions, and there is little communication except from a few exchanged texts in the evening.
She says that she doesn't like to talk on the phone, even though we have had long conversations in the past.
Last night we were texting each other when she said that she has started a course which could involve 6 months away on a work placement. I said that I would of course support her any way she needs, but that I would miss her. She said that her career would come first, and I replied that I would continue to support her, but that she is very important to me.
She said that I needed to be more independent and that it is not good to be so attached to someone else, and that she thinks that I view her in a different light to what she really is.
Have I scared her off? I know that we are at a very early stage in our relationship, but I really love her. Or maybe I am being immature, I don't know.
Does anyone have any advise? What should I do?
Thanks.
Comments
You may have from what you say...or she may have scared herself by getting too deeply involved too quickly. She is obviously asking for space now....so I would give her as much time as she needs. Your other friends and social life away from her and even your job....may be the way to take your mind off her and help you to get over her if she is not ready for a relationship. She says she wants to focus on her career....it may be she is also saying she likes people who focus on their careers! What do you think?
Hi,
I was the original poster of this, I think it is all over, we rarely talk and I haven't seen her for weeks. I think that you was right about her scaring herself by getting too deeply involved too quickly. Oh well...
Thank you for your comment anyway.
Well, you sound fairly philosophical about it so maybe you are getting over her...I hope you find someone who can love you as you are sometime soon. Good luck.