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How to approach the lack of sex issue
My wife and I no longer have regular sex (once every 1-2 months at best). It has been gradually going this way since she fell pregnant with our 1st child 4 years ago and has gradually gotten worse. She has no sex drive any more whilst I still have a high sex drive. I have coped with the problem but recently I've been getting more and more frustrated. I tell her how sexy she is and cuddle and kiss her without sex being on the agenda. I am going to talk to her about this and hope that we can resolve things but if the worst happens and she says she just doesn't want sex any more then I will have a decision to make. If she does say this I am considering suggesting I use prostitutes. Its not something I've ever done before but as a way of resolving the problem so that we are both happy I think it would be a good solution. We otherwise have a good relationship and still enjoy being together but the sex issue is causing me some concern and I don't want to risk our marriage when a fairly simple solution is available. What do you all think?
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Hi, I think you really need to talk to your wife first. Does she even know how frustrated you are? Sex is a way of being really intimet in a relationship and makes you feel good. There could be lots of reasons why she has no sex drive, lack of energy looking after children, low self esteem about her body, stress. Its a vicous circle the more you get frustrated the more upset about it she may become. Its good that you compliment her and have cuddles without you wanting sex.
Have you ever tried taking her out for a romantic night or staying in, pack the children off to the grandparents or friends for the night give you too some alone time. See where it leads...
I really dont think prostitutes is ever a good idea. She could be really hurt by even the thought that you were going to go down that road. Unless your wife is really understanding and would allow it. I dont know that.
You can sort this out just talk to her tell her how upset its making you and you love her and want to sort this out.
Good Luck. Hope you work it out.
Hi. Thanks for the response. The first port of call is to sit down and discuss the situation. We do go away for nights at nice hotels without the childen as often as we can. Unfortunatley I do run a business that is growing rapidly so I'm not around that much. I think you may have something in the problem being self esteem related. I'll update once we've taken some time out to talk.
Thanks