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Sat 9, Jun 2012 at 4:18pm
hi people i got a wife she is not letting me see my unborn baby. i love her to bits.. i dont wanna loose her.. plz help me . i wanna die and i am not feeling well at the moment
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Hi
If you are in the UK and you are married to the mother of your child, then you will have Parental Responsibility for the child in law when it is born. You should be named on the Birth Certificate as the father.
Perhaps your wife will change her mind about you seeing the child once the birth is over - maybe she's having a hard time of it at the moment?
If not, then you could try Mediation - I always recommend Relate (relate.org.uk), or some solicitors do it.
If that doesn't work, then you could apply to the Family Court for a Contact order, or possibly even a Shared Residence order - much will depend on the circumstances re shared residence.
It sounds as if you may be feeling quite anxious at the moment, so maybe try not to cross too many bridges before you get to them.
If you are feeling really down, and perhaps depressed, I recommend having a chat with your GP.
In the meantime, the Samaritans are there 24/7, so if you are feeling desperate, give them a ring and share some of your worries with them.
I hope things pick up for you soon.
Sky
sky
you are a great person man.. can i call you plzz can i have a word with you plzzzzzz. contact me i am in the uk right now can i contact you.
how would my name be appeared in the birth certificate then? how talk to me plzz
sky i flagged you by mistake talk to me plzz
Hi again
Info about registering a birth here;-
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Registeringlifeevents/Birthandadoptionrecords/Registeringorchangingabirthrecord/DG_175608
If things get difficult over contact, and mediation doesn't help, you can get informed help and advice here:-
http://www.fnf.org.uk/
You can make an application for Contact, or Residence, yourself, and fnf will provide all the information you need. They may even be able to put you in touch with someone who knows the process and procedures who would speak at Court for you, i.e. such lay helpers are known as McKenzie friends.
But as the proceedings are mainly informal and done in the Judge's Chambers sat around a table, you shouldn't have a problem with it.
The Court will expect you to have tried Mediation first though.
If you are unable to agree when it gets to court, then the chances are that the Judge will ask for a report by a CAFCASS Officer (previously known as Court Welfare Officers).
http://www.cafcass.gov.uk/
Such reports carry a lot of weight, and if a Judge ignores the recommendation in such a report it can be considered as grounds for Appeal.
Working out a Parenting Plan that is agreed by both of you is the best way to go - as far as I am concerned, Relate are the best people to help you with that if you go the route of Mediation.
Sky
To the original poster. I can see how upsetting the situation is for you. As well as the helpful information given by Sky can I suggest that you have a look at the related site to this http://theparentconnection.org.uk/. You'll also find lots of useful information there. If you post again on that site you may get responses from others with similar experiences.