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My child's father and I have been together for 2 years. We broke up completely a month before I had our child. He was never there during the pregnancy bc we had a long distance relationship. He had yet to see our kid even tho he's moved in the same city as me. We are now working on trying to be together again but I'm torn. I'm seeking out child support and while there I found out he has another child he's not takin care of. He won't go into details about it he just gets angry and says he's not in the child's life. He lied to me once before about being married. Even thought they were going thru a divorce he failed to mention it at all. He's 12 years older than I am. Idk if I should stay with him or leave. He never calls me. All we do is text. The only time he seems excited to talk to me is when we talk about sex. What do I do?
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I can't help but wonder why you stay with him? Even being on your own would beat being with a man who lies to you, doesn't seem to care about either his child or you - and only wants to have a relationship when he's feeling like sex? Does he sound like a good catch? a reliable partner? a good dad for your child? a kind and loving person who is there to support you? IMO you deserve better than that for you and your child. It might be worth thinking carefully about what you want from him - and is he ever going to provide it? From what you say he'd have to change quite a lot and he doesn't sound the changing type.
Sorry to sound harsh - I'm sure there's a lot about him that you really like - but from what you've told us it seems now is the time to take stock of your situation and to think about you and your child's future. I hope it works out for you.
I agree. Why are you with this guy...he sounds irresponsible. If he cant look after his first child what makes you think he ever would with yours? Im sorry to say but I think you need to wave goodbye to this person and move forward with your life. Find somebody who will show you the love and respect you deserve.
All the best