He says he didn't cheat... so why did he hide & lie?
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. He has been an amazing "step father" to my son & always put us 1st. I am his 1st real girlfriend & I was always afraid of him cheating or leaving because I would worry that my life would be too much for him to handle. We've always had our ups & downs, we've been through a lot together; but even thought I had my concerns of him cheating or leaving.. I always kept trying to convince myself that he would'nt. Until just 2 months ago in July, I found out he was talking to a girl from his job behind my back. After seeing his phone record, I found out he would talk on the phone with her for 5mins, 15 mins, 30mins, and even one time for 75mins. Im assuming this was all when I wasnt around (either out with friends, or just out shopping) When I confronted him, he lied about everything; denied even knowing her. When I showed him his cell phone records he finally came clean 'cause I had solid proof. He swears they were just friends, never hung out together, never had anything other than a work friendship. He says he didnt wanna hurt me & thats why he denied it. But if he knew he was doing something wrong, why continue to do it for 6months? He didnt have her name & number saved in his phone so he knew he was hiding it from me. He said he had no interest in the girl other than just being freinds & having conversations. I dont know what to believe because he hid everything from me & lied about it all in the beginning. Its been almost 2 months & Im trying to move past this but questions keep coming to my head. I want to get passed it but I dont know how to. I dont know what to believe. Since then, he got a new phone & changed his number right away so that we can start a clean slate. He gave me access to his phone records if I ever want to check it. And so far he's in the clear. But the questions still keep crossing my mind. Is he really telling me the truth now? How do I know its not just another lie? How do I know for sure he didnt do anything with her? That there were no emotional, physically attraction, connection or feelings? Please help, I dont know what to do.