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Hi everywhere one. I decided to seek advice here because I want to save my relationship with my fiance.
The problem is, we have 2 girls. We are happy and will be celebrating our anniversary soon. But well, his jobless as of now. Ever since The start of this year his been slacking of, his been in 3 different jobs since then.
I don't know how to help him. It upsets me that we, his family can't motivate him to do better. Like his somehow lost. He said he wanted to work hard for us, but when he does work two jobs, his health fails him. And when he has one job, he gets disappointed of his paycheck amount. Now he can't find a job when we really needed, it stressful. We are almost gonna loose everything. I know seperating is not the solution, but how do I understand him? And how to make him motivated?
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Job hunting endlessly can be soulless, especially for men who feel they need to be the 'provider'. Try and get him to do something to take his mind of it, such as volunteering - this may seem a bit counterproductive as it is less time spent job hunting, but it will lift his spirits so that he does better at interviews and things.
Once he gets a job, praise it...and encourage him to talk about the positive things about it...that will change his mental attitute towards it. I used to hate my job, but realising I was stuck I began to change how I approached work, focusing on the positives. The negatives are still there, but they bother me less now. In the same way, his low paycheck may seem less important.