My partner & I got together a couple of years ago. We're both out of bad marriages and finding each other has been an absolute delight We're both in our 40s. We're virtually inseparable and needless to say our sex life up until recently has been brilliant. It's probably fair to say that I had a higher drive than her already high one but I sometimes suffer from performance anxiety in as much that I find it hard to ejaculate. In these instances, I would finish off by masturbating, often with her help ( :) ). There were other times when she was too tired or at the time not interested when I was or had to get up maybe, then again I might masturbate. She doesn't achieve orgasm by penetrative sex but rather by cunnilingus, which I am more than happy to give but again sometimes she might not be in the mood. With penetrative sex, she gets to a euphoric state, which she enjoys.
I came back from a few days away with (my family) & we made love that week virtually every night. She then was tired and stressed with work and nothing happened for a few days. Then I got the impression she was avoiding me. I had to go away again and the night before I asked her what the problem was and she said that there was something that had been for a while but she didn't elaborate. We parted feeling sad. The night I came back, she was happy to see me (not as much as usual) and just before we went to sleep, told me that she was no longer interested in having a sexual relationship with me, that I was more interested in masturbating and not in paying attention to her and that she saw me more now as an old friend and no longer a lover. She'd realised this some time back but hadn't thought/forgotten to discuss it with me. She still loves me and wants to continue the relationship though (as far as I understand).
Since then, she has been cuddly and reasonably flirty as before. She's quite happy to kiss and fondle me, indeed seems quite amourous & sexual inuendo/chat still happens. For my part I can kiss and fondle her breasts/bum but as soon as I make any move anywhere else, then I am firmly rejected, hand pushed away and once when I put my hand back, was told I was annoying. The couple of times I've dragged up the courage to ask her about it, she's not replied.
I love this woman to pieces but I am feeling very much rejected. She has come to the conclusion that she no longer wants to make love - with me only or just at all I'm not entirely sure - that she no longer fancies me but is quite happy to fondle me, receive affection from me, give it back etc but I've had absolutely no consultation in this process. I truly love this woman and fancy her very much, she is sexy and turns me on and I much prefer making love to her than to my hand, believe me.
Problem is that, as above, I feel rejected and I don't think I want a non (full) sexual relationship with her. I'm not the sort of person to force myself on someone and I only want it if she really wants to give herself to me, not because I want it. What can I do? Any advice welcome as its doing my head in at the moment.