Ex-issues Causing Confidence/performance Problems
I've been married to my wife for a little over a year after dating for about 2. Both of us were fairly limited in our sexual conquests prior to meeting each other (she had been with one other guy, I with two other girls; all in serious long term relationshpis) and our sex life has been nothing short of fantastic.
Recently, however, the two of us had a few drinks together to celebrate moving into a new city and some stories were shared about past loves. I have always subscribed to the "less history, more mystery" mantra in relationships (meaning I don't ask and don't have to know) but through a tangentially related story coupled with the indiscretion caused by alcohol she let slip the previsouly unknown fact that her only other lover had been extremely well-endowed. As she put it, she was "shocked" at his size. The statement was not made with the intent of any unfavorable comparioson towards me, and she immediately caught herself trying to recover the story and explaining that the sex is much better with me, but I was and am pretty rattled. I would say I am average downstairs but have never had any problems with confidence in the bedroom; but after her recent disclosure I have had serious performance isses and I feel uncomfortable being naked in front of her. Even if it truly doesn't matter to her in the least it has had an effect on me.
Obviously we can't change the past and I can't forget the fact, but I need to get past this in my own mind and get my "mojo" back so to speak. Any advice?