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Desperate, Sick & Tired!
So I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 22, we recently moved in together 2 months ago with my mother. We've been together around 4 months and everything was going okay until a few weeks ago. When we got together my boyfriend was very honest and told me he was expecting a baby with his ex. long story short she wouldn't let him have anything to do with the pregnancy. This has been very hard for him and I understand that. However the past week or so (the baby is due any day now) he has sort of 'turned'. I don't know how to describe it. he is constantly angry with me (nothing I do is right) and he wont talk to me about whats going on inside his head! He keeps it all bottled up, he wont even talk to him mum about it! It's very difficult because I want to help him but he wont let me. He is so depressed and stressed right now and he says i'm making it a million times worse by trying to talk to him. He keeps saying to leave him alone, he wont let me touch him (holding his hand, cuddle kiss NOTHING) in any way. this is now my forth night sleeping alone while he refuses to come to bed and sleeps on the sofa. All I want to do is help him but he wont let me, I'm scared I'm going to lose him! I love him and I know he loves me. I'm just flat out of ideas and sick of crying myself to sleep over this!
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This is a painful time for you both. You are dealing with this by wanting to help him and make him feel loved and close. But he is dealing with it by keeping everything locked up inside his head.. So you don't know what is going on in his head and neither does him Mum and neither do I. What he is saying he wants is to be left alone. Is that right? Can you give him that? With patience, perhaps some answers may be forthcoming after the birth Hard for you in the meantime but learning patience is not a bad virtue!!. Best wishes.