Depression and (lack of) intimacy
Hi, we're a married couple in our early 40's, with 2 young kids.
My wife has struggled with depression for a number of years, and in recent months she's had a particularly bad spell. Our intimate relationship has always been a source of frustration for me, I don't just mean sex but cuddling, holding hands etc, it simply doesn't happen.
Any time I try to raise the issue I'm met with hostility, and accused of being some kind of sex-mad pervert, and she point blank refuses to discuss it.
My wife went to a sex therapist 2 years ago but, again refused to discuss what was said or what she/I/we as a couple could do to improve things.
I'm now getting to the point of walking away, which would break my heart to do but I'm really struggling to find a solution to this recurring problem. I'm also thinking that the problem must be with me, she obviously doesn't find me attractive either emotionally or physically anymore, and perhaps I'm the cause of her depression, and she'd be a lot happier without me.
Thanks for reading, I just needed to get this off my chest