Crushing on my boss... what now?!
I'm a 20 year old female, and I just began working at a new company doing my dream job. I felt drawn to the owner, lets call him Sam right from the beginning, mostly because I respected his knowledge and the fact that he gave me such a great opportunity without much background in the field. He's handsome, witty, and super flirty. Sam and I did a lot of one on one training through the few weeks I've worked at the company, and we got along great, although I didn't realize I was crushing on him until much later.
Sam frequently flirts heavily with me jokingly telling me how cute I am, making innuendos as to how great it would be if we slept together, as well as other sexual jokes, and playfully touches me like pushing or play hitting. I try my best not to flirt back, but if we were outside the work place I would definitely want to. Sam flirts with other girls, which seems to be in his nature, but not nearly as much as he does with me...
The thing is, he has a wife and two kids, so I stocked the flirting up to his personality and figured it meant nothing until he came into work very stressed and confessed to me that his wife was a "miserable person to be around" and quickly changed the subject. Now I'm putting things together, and wonder where this is going.
I obviously don't want to ruin a marriage or my job, but Im having a hard time pulling away from my thoughts of Sam. Now what?
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I bet Sam has more notches on his bedpost than a totem pole!
And I bet he’s lost count of the pretty shoulders he cried on about his “miserable wife” who doesn’t understand him! (the old routines may be corny, but that doesn't mean they can't work)
If his wife is actually miserable, it’s probably because she understands him only too well, and knows what a ‘super-player’ he is! How would you feel if you were bringing up two kids while being married to a philanderer?
People like Sam have a hypnotic charisma that they use to charm the pants off women – literally!
Power and authority are some of the oldest aphrodisiacs in the book!
If you want to be special, don’t become just a notch on his bedpost.
If he has anything at all about him, he might even respect you for it. In which case you may be able to use your 'specialness' to advance your career. Being smart is much better than being the bosses plaything.
Sky