Confused NEED ADVICE A.S.A.P
hi, im trying to seek advice on what to do, i have a boyfriend of just over a year and a half but i don't know whether or not to break up with him, i no if i do i will be upset and i have done this in the past and regretted it, but with my studying and everything else going on i think its getting a bit to stressful, i really do love him and really do not want to hurt him or lose him, and im unsure whether or not if i end it i will regret it just like i did my last two boyfriends. in addition to that i also have a pen pal that lives in a different country that i've been inlove with for 8 years and am finally meeting him this year, i no that if i stay with my boyfriend i will risk hurting him anyway when i go to see this other guy, plus my boyfriend really hates cheating, i hate myself for it but when drunk i have ended up kissing other guys. any advice?
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I don't care if its not what i want to hear, i need it, even my most truthful and bluntest of friends could not state it as you did, i decided after writing the reply that i would break up with him, but needed a bit of classification to be sure, thanks for the advice, and in my defence i haven't always been so much of a dick in relationships, i just ended up self destructing due to other things, its a shame i have to let him go, but i think its best, thanks.
You sound as though you have a great deal of growing up to do. What are the real reasons you want to hold on to this guy? Having someone to fall back on?. It seems that there are many things you want to do and will do, regardless of your boyfriend. Getting drunk and kissing other men, the problem is easy to solve, don't get drunk. There again, even when drunk we still know to an extent of what we are doing. It is wrong for you to string this guy along. If you can even consider breaking up with him, then you can't possibly love him. Try putting the shoe on the other foot, suppose he was kissing other girls when getting drunk, was planning to meet up with another girl in the summer, knowing you would be hurt, and just imagine that he is asking people whether or not he should break up with you, as there's things he wants to do and will do, knowing they would hurt you, but then stated but I really love her!!! That isn't how love works. Let this guy go and find someone who can treat him well and with respect, and if I were you I'd go and do all the things I want to do, as a single person and not look to start a relationship with anyone, until you've done whatever it is you want to do. After that you maybe ready to start treating your relationships seriously, and with a little more respect. I'm sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but I have to be honest. Let him go!