Cheating sons mum wants me back
Me and my ex were together for 8 happy years until I discovered she'd been having an affair with somebody for a couple of months. We had a 3 year old son together at the time.
If it wasn't for my son I would've have ended the relationship there and then, however, because of him and the fact I was scared if we did split up she would take him back to her home country I tried to make a go of it. I arranged counselling for us which we went too. But I found out she had carried on seeing him still. With that I ended the relationship. She (thankfully) decided to make a go of it with this other man whom she told me was her sole mate, so at least I still got to see my son.
All I ever wanted was to be a good dad and keep a happy home for us to all live in, every decision I ever made was for us and our family and to say I was devastated would be a understatement. However because of my work I got to spend at least 10 whole days a month with my son every month and he is my life.
I got over my ex and even had a relationship for a number of months, I ended it though as between work and my son I was finding I was sacrificing time that I wanted to spend with my son. I would say that I am happy being single most of the time as I enjoy the freedom on the days I don't have my son to catch up with friends, keep fit etc although I still find it hard saying goodbye to my son when he goes back to his mums or when I see a 'happy family' walking round the shops together or out on day trios etc as I think about what my son is missing out on.
We separated over a year ago now, however she recently broke down when she came to collect my son and said she wants me back and for us to all live together again.
I really don't know what to do, she is still living with this other guy and I would certainly not do anything behind his back. I know my friends and family would probably not understand if I took her back as they were all as shocked and as hurt by her actions as I was. To be honest, I don't even know if I want her back, I know more than anything I want my son to be happy, so I am considering if we should try counselling once she is single again, I am certainly not rushing into anything but I don't know what to do as although I always knew this day would come it has still caught me wrong footed.
I suppose also this whole episode has opened my eyes to relationships. It has made me very cynical. I don't know anybody who seems to to be truly happy with there married lives and everyone seems to be having affairs and being cheated on and I suppose that I have given up on the idea of true love and sole mates, if I ever did believe in that at the start.
Has anyone got any advice? Did u take somebody back and made it work? Or did they cheat again? This is all hypothetical at the moment as I haven't even spoke to her about it since she broke down, at the time I pretty much pushed her out the door as I just couldn't find anything to say. I guess I'm am looking for some advice before I decide what, if anything I do next.