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Can't bear to share a bed!
Hi Everyone,
I have a real problem with sharing a bed with my partner. First of all he has a problem with his nose so has to breath through his mouth when he sleeps so he is really loud and i like it to be silent when im trying to sleep at night so his snoring and loud breathing really get on my nerves and makes me really uptight so I cant sleep. He also suffers from quite bad breath but i dont want to say anything incase i hurt his feelings :s
Secondly i feel almost claustrophobic when i share a bed with him i like to be able to roll around in the night and just knowing hes there puts me on edge.
We used to sleep together fine when we started dating but the problems started later on in my pregnancy, I thought once I had the baby it would go back to normal but if anything its got worse. I think it may be because I do all the chilcare and housework myself my bed has become my sanctuary where i get my peace and quiet at the end of a hectic longggg day so dont want that precious peace shattered?
Has anyone else had this problem or am i just a bit uptight?
Comments
It may well be that you are exhausted from child are all day. Are you able to talk to your partner about this...it sounds like you are a bit overwhelmed by it all and that his snoring and bad breath add up to the last straw! You obviously don't want to hurt him...at the same time becoming a parent is a huge event in both your lives and you need to share the workload...so that you feel loved and cared for ..and less tired. You may also help him by telling him that the smell from his breath needs checking out , it can sometimes be due to a medical problem..and something can be done about it. The same applies to snoring. However, that still leaves you with the difficulty of not wanting to share a bed. It may be worth helping him get some help on his two issues and then see how you feel about sharing the bed. I hope this helps.