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Bringing up getting married
I'm 27 and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We've been living together for 3 years. I love him very much and I'm happy with our relationship so far, but now I am ready for marriage.
We've talked a bit about getting married, but never anything too serious or specific. I know we will get married eventually, but again, we've never really gotten into the details.
I don't want to pressure him, but I would like to talk about when it might happen. I'm just having a really hard time bringing it up without feeling like I'm pressuring him. I mean, I know I could wait until he decides to propose, but honestly, I feel like it could be years unless I speak up. I just feel he's very content with our relationship now and unless I push it, getting married just isn't on the top of his list.
Would it be pressuring him too much to tell him that I want to get married soon? How do I go about doing this without being too pushy? Please help.
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Maybe ask him where he sees the relationship going, whether he'd like kids marriage the whole 100yards... that way you could say well i'd like us to be married before such a such a time :) Ive had the same conversation with my partner and this was the easiest approach i found :)
I think katiecurtis above has the right idea! And if you're still worrying about it seeming pushy, why don't you just tell him during the chat that you don't want to put pressure on him, but that having the discussion will help you feel more secure about your future together and therefore might even take the pressure off him for the time being! If you know he'll be ready to commit to marriage by, say, 2014 then he's got another of couple of years to enjoy without you nagging him about it! :) Above all, just remember you're both happy in your relationship at the moment...keep this going and marriage will come! Don't put too much pressure on yourself either! Good luck! x