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Me and my Boyfriend have been together for 1 yr and 5 months. we recently moved in together as well. we argue almost everyday because of things that he does that i do not like. when we do argue he'll say things like "i don't think we should live together anymore so one of us needs to move because your anger is killing us, or he'll say I don't want to be with you, since your this big negative person in my life" then after we stop talking to each other and we're both quiet,his actions will say differently, when I'm angry my anger becomes aggressive, and demanding! I call him all kinds of name and Lose control over myself and he says that is going to ruin our relationship if I don't stop trying to push him out of my life, I know I have a lot of anger issues and insecurities and I know most of the time I'm the problem and I recognize that.I feel like he doesn't want to get married to me because of how I am and how I act. I also know that he is a man and as a man they want to do what they want to do and not feel imprisoned or controlled. can someone please give me some solid advice because I am in need of it.
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I think you would benefit from some kind of councelling. You have a lot of problems which you need to talk to someone about. Dont let your anger and agression destroy your relationship. Seek help. You can try going to your GP and asking to see somebody or you can try Relate. They are a good councilling service try looking them up online.
Try to write down the type of things your boyfriend does to upset you and identify them. That way you can tell him things he could do to help you more. If not then you could try identifying what he doesnt do and finding away to control your anger and upset when he hasnt.
Is it things around the house....like not doing washing up, washing etc. Becuase you will find that most men are useless regarding these things. My partner certainly is. Yeah it used to p**s me off mega style but now a days Ive just come to realise its not coz hes trying to wind me up he just doesnt think.
All the best. Hope you work everything out soon. x
Hi I had anger problems and I don't anymore I had counselling about it and if you follow the advice they give you and find out why you act in that certain way they will be able to help you. There are much better ways to deal with people than using anger :) also it might not just be you with the anger problems, it might just be that you have different anger problems than those of your boyfriend. You could both have them.
You said that you feel like he doesn't want to get married because of how you are behaving... but maybe it's just that you aren't on the same page as each other. Also if you have moved in with him it might be that he doesn’t feel the need to marry as moving in with someone is the same kind of commitment and therefore it can rule out the need for marriage.
Where you an angry person before this relationship?
Hi i am the same with my boyfriend it got really bad,we split and i attack him one night really bad.Please get help before it gets out hand.We back together things are not good. I have learn to control it now or i go a long walk fresh air helps. I hope u get things sorted x