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2 yrs ago I was out seeing my son and came home to find my husband texting with his ex-wife, they were telling each other how much they loved one another and how she couldn't wait to have him next to her naked in bed, I confronted him and we seemed to be working things out ( or thought we have been working things out, we have been married 16 yrs now). he promised me that he would never talk to her again! all this time hes been telling me he hasn't talked to her cause he doesn't want to lose us. (REALLY?)so I was just starting to trust him again and then he went on a trip cause he is a truck driver. I was doing laundry went to get his dirty clothes from his bag and found a go phone that he had bought so that the could keep talking to her without me knowing,( I was crushed )He had bought the go phone within a month of telling me he would never talk to her again. I didn't eat for 5 days and cant sleep either. Apparently he said he needed to vent but was talking to her about all aspects of our life together, still telling her he loves her. I feel he cheated on me! I'm at a-loss for words or even what to do. Is it right that he is doing this?
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I'm not surprised you are at a loss for words. He has certainly lied to you.. You do not say when you met him...if he was separated from his ex at the time or not. 16 years is a long time to be married to someone and it sounds like your trust is now shattered. Are you looking to save the marriage?. If you are then it is probably worth you taking part in the online discussion this Thursday. Janet Reibstein, a very experienced and highly regarded psychologist is hosting the online discussion on building trust. Just go to the home page of the site to join in or you can send your question into admin@thecoupleconnection.net ahead of Thursday to get her online response. I hope this helps.
He was divorced, i am number 5 wife and have lasted this long. His other marriages where only 2yrs or less.
I'm not sure right now, if I want to save this or not? ;/ I came home today turned on computer only to have porn jump in my face. He says he didn't do it.. How else would it get there? It was downloaded an hr after I left for the day... The ex he was talking to was his #2 wife. I guess i missed the online discussion :(
Totally lost right now!
Hi, that sounds really tough! There must be something special about you if you r marriage lasted that long in the circumstances. If you are still interested the discussion is not over...it is on Thursday 25th.