My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. We are currently still seeing each other off and on. I would like to work things out but it feels like he is just using me for sex and money. He often ignores my texts and calls, says he doesn't get them. He does live in an area with sketchy service. I believe he has started lying to me now. He refuses to discuss the relationship (or arrangement). Should I just give up? Or should I withhold sex and money and see if he still comes around? He says he wants to wait and see what happens, but if no effort is being put into a relationship I don't see where anything will happen. Just confused and hurt at this point. I cannot tolerate being lied to.