advice about my girlfriend and myself please
i am 23 and have just finished my intern job for uni. my girlfriend has just moved jobs and has just moved into a houseshare with 3 other ladies. all fine by me.
we have been going out for almost 3 years, but have been close friends for nearer 6 or 7 years. we got together while we were both at separate uni's. so far we have worked. sure, there have been ups and downs but nothing i can't handle.
in april she was feeling down about her old job, and about life in general. i found out she liked a guy at work, which i can't help, but i trust her. she had to go away for training, and i am willing to bet that guy was part of the group going. she told me before she went she wanted a break, time to sort her head out (which she later perceived as a break up, a grey area i suppose) i found out she must have told this guy she liked her but he turned out to be a jerk.
from reliable sources i found out she broke up with me because she felt i wasn't committed enough and we used to argue about the small stuff. but it takes two to argue. when we had our break i realised how much she actually meant to me. i am gonna be honest it tore me apart. i didn't go to work for 3 days. she said she didn't want me to change, and we started dating again. we both got the fizz back. it was exciting. i loved it!
she now has a new job and a new house. i am fin with the distance. but she said she needs her space to get settled. my job has just ended and i need someone who an be there for me at the moment. and i tried to talk about the new insecurities i have in our relationship. but she said she can't deal with that at the moment. am i getting a raw deal here.???
i was texting her yesterday, but she wasn't making the effort to text back. i mean they were nice texts. but infrequent. and i asked if i could phone her to say goodnight (as we always did) but she said she was to tired.
she has booked a weekend trip away, just her and i. and she wants to see me this weekend.
honestly i am jealous or her new male friends. i am insecure about myself, the future and the future of our relationship.
shall i call it a day, or stick it out and see where it goes. i just wish she would think of my needs sometimes too.
cheers for reading!