A 21st Century Marriage.
I'll get straight to the point, I'm a 26 year old man, Married to a 27 Year old woman. We have been married for just over a year and for about 2 years our sex life has dwindled from daily to 3/4 times a week, once a week, once a month and now well probably every other month. Although we both have quite stressful jobs and both work shifts meaning time together is limited, I've approached my wife about the change of our sex life and she accepted there are issues around, loss of sex drive, time together etc. but the lack of sex has now started to effect our relationship (which has been very solid up to now). She seems to be picking fights over very small things. I put an egg shell in the wheelie bin instead of the food bin and all of a sudden I'm the most lazy person in the world and she's ready to walk out. IT'S AN EGG SHELL !!! She's told me straight now that she doesn't want to have sex and the thought of sex disgusts her. She says things like she wouldn't be surprised if I was finding sex elsewhere. But I don't want to find sex elsewhere, I want to sleep with my wife. I feel like she's pushing me to have some sort of mistress for sex and affection and this will relieve the stress from my wife to sleep with me. So I ask, is this a 21st century marriage? A wife and a mistress??