hi everyone, i'm looking for a little help. I have been dating a wonderful girl now for almost a year and a half. we have a gret base for our relationship. we are very open, very loving and we help each other out when we need it. i recently have lost the trust of my girl as i was talking to a few girls online(one of them an X) the first time it happened i didnt tell her as i thought it was innocent even though the girl i was talking to had a small crush on me. i didnt tell my girl that i was talking to her and when she asked if i was i said we werent talking. she later found out we were even though it was innocent she felt i was hidding things because i had lied to her about it. the second time it happend she asked if i was talking to a certain person (an x)and i said i wasnt. i had forgoten that i had talked to this girl , even though she asked me more then once if and when the last time i spoke with her was. it again looked like i was covering things up because i said i had not been talking with ths person. all conversations were innocent but the fact that it looks like i was not telling the truth or covering the converstaions up. i have since lost the trust of her and i am in the search of something i can do to help gain it back. i truely love this person. i wish nothing more then to be with her and only her. i know trust issues are hard to get over and i want to start the mending process. any info would be great. thanks
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loobyloo on 09 June 2009 at 10:20am said...
Time, time and more time. There is not a quick fix on this. Trust is so easy to lose but not so easy to gain back. Also you need to earn her trust by being totally honest and answering any questions however petty you think they are and put up with any hurt that she may feel when you answer those questions.
You are going to have to live life like an open book from now on, but thats a small price to pay for the woman you love. Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for the best. Looby xx
Anonymous on 09 June 2009 at 11:27am said...
I agree with comment above. I think a good way to start would be to delete these online contacts, and show your girlfriend that you are doing so. Destroy all contact you have with them, and TELL them you can't talk to them anymore. I know it sounds extreme from your point of view, but to be honest, you have been a complete muppet here (no offence, just some tough love). If you really love this person, then you can make sacrifices like these. Good luck!
Oh and DON'T add them again after you delete them, cuz then you will definitely have betrayed your girlfriend's trust. NO QUICK FIXES.