aplogies if you havw read this post 4 but im new to site and Im sure the site has just lost my last post.
i have been happily married for nearly ten years. together for 12. no children, good job, live in nice area.
recently (since before xmas) started to visit my best friend more often and recently went away with some of his friends male and female and had a good time. i met a guy who is my best mates friends and we spent the weekend together talking and having fun.
i realised after when i got home that i was quite unhappy back at home and was really missing my friends wholive approx 150 miles away, so i then i spent more and more weekends up there in which on on particular wekend i saw this guy again and we drank /had good evening all together. i quite took a liking to this guy but have since had hardly any contact (when i say hardly xmas text) so there is is no evidence to say he likes me, yet i think about him a lot.
at xmas i asked my hubby for a divorce due to me being really unhappy, i said i thought things weren't working out. we have tried since then and my husband is a really lovely guy, i wouldnt wan to do anyhting to hurt him, to the point of not leaving him in order that i wouldnt want to break his heart. but i think what im trying to say is.. does this guy that i met once or twice have anyhting to do with me feeling the way i do (there were no kisses, no suggestions of future cntact, jsut a few flirt/chuckle/good laugh texts on xmas day as this guy was merry and thats been it) or am i genuinly not hapy with marriage anymore. everytme i seem to get time offwork together i get the feelin of wanting to move on and start a fresh. and when were back at work we just plod along as normal.+ i am so confused
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Anonymous on 14 April 2009 at 4:40pm said...
Hi Sallyanne, your last post was just a little bit down the page, you can find it here http://thecoupleconnection.net/posts/574
It sounds to me like you're ready to move on, but it's not that easy of course. Have you really tried to put the flame back into your marriage? It doesn't sound like either of you have really tried to make it fun, go on a date to the cinema, music, fairground. Do you take your time off together, or do you stagger it?
sallyanne on 14 April 2009 at 4:44pm said...
i have tried and he has really really tried too, but its me i am not happy but i hae the fear of lsong everyhting ive worked for house etc, i knoe thats just materialistic but it makes it harder. i just wanted advise as i wondered whether this guy i saw would mean its had an effect?
Anonymous on 15 April 2009 at 10:57am said...
im in a similar postition myself. I have learnt to realise when you have been in a relationship with someone fro so long, you get fed up and start looking or something that will fill the gap thats missing. Is it worth throwing your marrage away for something that may not come to anything? Im my case it is because i cant see a future for me and my ex. Have some time to yourself to discover what you want and need from a relationship and see if your husband can make the changes. If not, get a divorce
Anonymous on 15 April 2009 at 9:13pm said...
thats good avise i do need tie to my self, then i may realise that my marriag isnt worth throwing away, or i may go round in these same circles again and then realise i need ta move on