For the past 2 years i've been in the most amazing relationship with a girl. She's been at uni at the other end of the country but over the 2 years we've made it work and our bond has been so strong! We've been on amazing holidays and she really relaxes around me compared to when she's at uni and get stressed and wound up by the work. Then a week after valentines day (when she made me a special gift and sent me a card saying how much she loved me) she told me that she didn't love me anymore. I believe that the work stress and the whole idea of finishing uni has scared her and she's lashing out and pushing away the person closest to her. I know her better than most people and this isn't something that she would do, seeing as tho we have also been planning moving in together and going on holidays over the summer when she finishes uni. We split up a week ago and its killing me not having her in my life. I still believe that when all the pressure is off and she relaxes then we might get back together but i'm worried that she'll not realise this till its too late. She wants space which i'm giving her but its really hard and i dont know what to do i cant stop thinking about her! HELP
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DazednConfused on 25 March 2009 at 5:14am said...
We can never know a person enough boy. Believe me, I hardly know myself. It's hard, especially during this time.. Maybe it's because you two are in seperate stages of your lives. She may feel the need to strap down and focus on her studies. Although relationships can cause great freedom and happiness.. maybe she feels it's unfair to get you wound up in her stress and worries, causing her to stress more.
Give her time, you both need time. Get up and out and see what's out there for you. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. But for now, there's nothing you can do to influence her decision without looking clingy and she'll just want to push you further away. Stay cool, and good luck!
Anonymous on 30 March 2009 at 11:27am said...
Thanks for your comments, I'm giving her the space she needs so fingers crossed! thanks again