I have dated this guy for pretty much a year. We have always been two pees in a pod and have great conversation we support each other through everything and we are always there for each other.. or at least that is the way it was. We broke up for 4 months because I promised him I would not drink while I was at parties or drink period. I would always promise him before I went that I wouldn't but while I was there I would but I would tell him later that night that I did I never hid it from him at all. We started having promblems after that and I starting picking fights with him all the time. I have no clue why.. I guess it is because I have always been scared to feel the way I felt about him. He broke up with me because the fighting was just so draining at times and the relationship had lost all it's fun. While we were "broken up" we had sex a couple of times and I found out that I was pregnant. I have been having alot of health issues and the doctor basicly said if I were to go through with the pregnancy I would be signing my death sentence. I didn't want to get an abortion because I am strongly agaisnt it but he kept hounding me and saying that "If I were to go through with the pregnancy he would be there for me but he could never forgive me." I went through with aborting....After I did that he said that he wasn't happy in the relationship any more and that we couldn't talk anymore and I didn't make him happy and all this stuff but the night before he was tellinng me that he never wanted to lose me and he wouldn't know what to do with himself and all this stuff and he was sorry for everything that happend to us blah blah blah.. He hasn't been helping me through this whole process of greif. but he still tells me that he misses me and that he still loves me and cares about me he just doesnt think that it will work out between us anymore because of the way he is feeling now.... I guess my question is.. should I wait and give him time and space... Or should I just move on and try my best to get through eveything?
thank you for your time and thoughts on this because I am really helpless and have no clue what to do.
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Anonymous on 21 January 2009 at 5:26pm said...
If you love him i would wait for a couple of months to see what happens, he could just be very confused after everything thats happended between you and need some time to clear his head. If you do get back with him tho i would do it with caution and just see how it goes, try not to rush in to a new relationship first incase it doesnt work out. If on the other hand he moves on then i would definatly suggest the same to you, i wouldnt stand around waiting if you are certain theres no chance. Take care of yourself.
Anonymous on 23 January 2009 at 5:03pm said...
You don't say why he was so against you drinking at parties - is there an underlying issue outside the drink itself? Perhaps this is something you should think about addressing too? Do give him space, but at the same time you need to look after your own needs too. Be kind to yourself - you have been through a traumatic time with your abortion and perhaps you could look to get some counselling or support from somewhere else to help you deal with that? It might be that if you get yourself happier he'll come back but he should be taking some responsibility for what happened. Good luck x
KPrincess91 on 13 March 2009 at 10:32am said...
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Anonymous on 13 November 2009 at 1:42pm said...
GOOd luck , i think is going to take a while for you to get over, stay possitive , if it hadnt been the drink issue i think this man would have foundwhat he would have considered another flaw in you, so perhaps moving forward , away and i bet in 6 monthes hell be regretting , his decsions. but dont wait around !!!!