My Girlfriend says that she feels as if she didn't want a relationship anymore, what do I do?
I have been dating my current girlfriend for almost 4 months now.
Although it seems unlikely, I have realized a while ago that I love her, and that I want our relationship to last for a long time, even to the point of marriage. She has told me several times that she feels the same way.
I believe her. Our relationship feels very connected and we understand eachother more than we can understand ourselves. But... lately, she has been feeling distant. She realizes how close I have become, and backed away a little. When we finally talked things out, she said that she really does love me and that no matter how scared she might be of commitment, she still wants our relationship to go far.
Yesterday, however, she was home alone and so I visited her. We did not have sex. We did get really physical for most of the time. After we stopped, and I was getting ready to leave, I noticed her to be distant. She later told me that she was mad at herself, AND also, that she has realized that doing that kind of stuff makes her feel like she only wants physical affection from me, and not a relationship. Can anyone help? I really love her, and I know she does too. I just think she might be confused in some way, but I don't know what to do.
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Anonymous on 10 June 2010 at 9:45am said...
Dear Anonymous,
Sounds like she needs a bit of space - maybe back off the physical side a bit and spend more time talking and just hanging out together. Spending time getting to know each other really well now, will give you a stronger foundation for the future. Good luck.