confusing position

By spencer-clarke on 30 April 2010 , 6:48pm
Relationship Issues: Getting on better with my partner
Tags: Money, Finding time for each other, relationship

I know my girlfriend loves me lots, but there just seems to be something wrong at the moment. I keep angering her and I dont know why. I keep trying to do nice things for her but she gets more enjoyment from being with others. I know it maybe sounds like I am smothering her but we live some distance away from one another and don't get to see each other that often. When we are together we seem to spend our time making time for our families rather and just us time. Which leads me to booking us little trips away, which we do enjoy. But she wants to spend equally and gets angry that I spend too much. Ive tried pointing out that I dont want to spend my money on myself but she wont listen. Two weeks ago she was talking loads about us getting married. Now she seems much more distant. We were planning on buying a house (her idea, which I loved) but now she thinks it will be further away because of her finances.

I know we both want to be together for ever but I fear she may break up with me if we can't get past this rough patch. It's been six months of us going out today and she has worked late even though we are going for a meal.

Comments

1. SunnyApril on 01 May 2010 at 3:30am said...

   I'm sorry you have to go through this.

   Is she harbouring resentment towards you for some reason? Did she jump to a conclusion about you without your knowledge, and is now acting out? If she was talking about marriage, I doubt there's a third party involved. Has someone been talking to her and influencing her views on the relationship, and perhaps she has not shared that with you?

   I'm sort of in the same situation where I have very little patience with my partner these days...but that's because he's hurt me and I'm still recovering from it.

   I hope you find out what's bothering her. Good luck and hang in there!

2. Asakura on 03 May 2010 at 9:45pm said...

   If you've done nothing to upset her then it sounds like you two really just need to sit down.Perhaps you two talking about getting engaged after only six months is scarin' her and making her nervous?My boyfriend talks about it a lot of it terrifies me and it's one of the reasons I don't think we'll make it as a couple and we've been together 3 years!Just sit down and ask her what's going on, if she gets all harsh don't get harsh back, even though you're a guy you have emotions too, just remind her of that

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