hi i have just found out that my husband of 3 years has been having cyber and phonesex.He first did this about 2 months ago i was really upset and betrayed i felt like i had lost all trust in him,as he went out and bought a web cam and when i found emails he had sent to this women it said about them meeting up.when i confrounted him he says it was jst fun and that he wouldnt really have gone to meet her.Then at the weekend i found more emails to women talkng about sex and exchanging phone numbers and him saying that he loved them and them saying the same.When i talked to my husband about it he just went queit.He says he loves me but,i feel like i dont know him anymore let alone trust him he jst seems to keep telling me lies.I asked him to leave for a few days as i need time to clear my head.We have 3 chidren to think about aswell.I checked his mail again today and the nite that i found out about the women after i went to bed he was mailing them again.I'm so confused i do love him an we have had a great marrriage untill this all started,but how will i ever know if he would have meet any of this women or not and how can i trust him again he has lied to me so much.
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Anonymous on 12 March 2010 at 9:53am said...
Dear kazzy,
I feel for you - it's really hard when partners cheat like this. Well done for suggesting he gives you some space, he may need a few wake up calls like this to help him see what effect his behaviour is having on your relationship. You say he continued to be in contact with them even after you'd confronted him about it. Maybe he needs to realise how seriously you're taking all of this. Could you ask him to wait to return home until he's given up the contacts? Though you'd probably not be able to trust him anyway. You need to think about what is best for you and the children - keep yourself safe and try not to let him continue hurting you. I hope it works out for you.