Hello All, I am fairly new to this site and not sure how it works but I'm looking to conversate with other individuals about relationship and what it contains. I am looking for answers, advice, suggestions etc.
Let me start by telling you about myself. I am 25 years old and my husband is 28 years old. We been together for 7 years and married for 4 years, we have a 2 1/2 years old daughter. My husband lived in another country but I requested to have him be here in USA. When he first got here and even before, our realtionship was GREAT! He was romantic, attentive, cummunicated well, basically I was he's world. I want to start by talking about my sex life because it;s what's on my mind.
I got pregnant and gain weight but lost our baby which was devastating, after that he stop performing oral sex on me.(this is when sex life was starting to chang) couple of months later we got pregant again and were really happy. While my pregnancy my husband was absent by working, out with friends, taking care of other families ( alot in he's plate) We started arguing a lot due to my cooking because I didnt know how ( which I learned but till this day he has an issue with it) After the baby I difinitely do not look the same and I sometimes don't take care of me due to being busy. But at times I do fix myself up and he notices but others doesnt. I feel like he is not attracted to me, we have sex 2-3 times a month, I use to initiate sex but got rejected and stopped. When we do have sex it's only 1 round, less than 10min and no oral or love making. Most of the time we have sex when he has been drinking (wich is great) but it makes me sad that's the only way. I look tru history in computers and he visits a lot of porn sites and I read convo he has with other girls talking about sex not with them but just talking. It's like he doesnt let me see he's sexual side, he's a;ways busy or tired and if i get a vibrator he get's really upset. He loves me and has no intensions of leaving me and he says he has a problem but i feel like its a poor excuse. I feel like their is more too it, he tells me he loves me the way I am. I do not know if it's me or him? I do not know what to do anymore and it makes me wanna find a lover because their is a lot of men out there that would love to be with me. I have gotten to the point where I flirt with other guys and one in particular that just sexual and makes me feel wanted and I love it. I am confused, This other guy acts the way I wich my husband does and makes me wanna cheat but I have no guts. There are other conversations I want to talk about and seek guidance but let's start here. Please help!
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Anonymous on 24 January 2010 at 5:13pm said...
The easy way out is to find a sex partner and thats what I'd like to think that I would do, but like you I would have no guts to do such a thing. But, if you feel that you could take the guilt and keep it a secret then that will be your solution. I don't think toys is the answer to a real life sex partner.
Flava781 on 24 January 2010 at 5:34pm said...
Thanks for commenting. I can definitely keep it a secret but I do not have the guts. The other guy has about 2 years trying to be with me and I want to because I am not getting what I want at home. The other guys is giving up on me because I keep holdng off. My whole thing is I do not want another man, I want my husband. Toys is not the answer but it holds off most of the time.