im not wrighting this to be judged.. i know what happe was wrong and i am ashamed. i split with my partner for a 3 months due to his anger. durning that time a guy from work became my shoulder to cry on. he is married with two young children so i never thought he wanted more. then he sarted telling ppl how bad is marriage was and he only stayed for he kidsand he hated it. we started to hang out lots and then 1 day he tried to kiss me i laughed it off and left. the he kept tlling me how amazing and wonderful i am. then he aske i he was single wld anythin happen. i said maybe. then we started o spend mwr time 2gether and icwdnt resit him anymwr. i know i shouldnt hav. we had an affair for 2 months he told every1 in work. then he dumped me coz my exs brother died and i went to surport him instead of going for a drink with him. i then agreed to get bk with my ex i told hm aboutt the affair and he told me i was silly but he still loved me. we havnt had sex yet. but i did a test this morning and i pregnant and its the married guys what do i do? i want the baby i hav no doubt about that. i was using contrcaptionit musten hav worked. pealse help
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Anonymous on 20 December 2008 at 3:49pm said...
I cannot understand why would you want to bring a child into the mess you've created. Spare a thought for the child and have an abortion before it's too late.
Anonymous on 22 December 2008 at 10:33am said...
Surely the first thing you must do is come clean with your partner and see if you can work something out with him. Or are you too afraid of his anger? Is it violent?
Morwenna (a member of the Talk It Out team) on 22 December 2008 at 4:20pm said...
Sounds like you are having a difficult time deciding what to do, although you have no doubt you want the baby. Only you can know whether you are ready to talk to your partner (and possibly the baby's father?) about the way forward. If you aren't ready yet, is there someone else among your friends and family that you could discuss this with? Also, there are outside agencies that can support you through this, have a look at the websites for Life www.lifecharity.org.uk who will help you decide about the baby, and Marriage Care www.marriagecare.org.uk where you can get access to relationship counselling. There is also an article on the "Check it out" section of this website you might find helpful - "Getting on better with my partner, what could be going on". Good luck, I do hope you find a way forward.
Anonymous on 30 December 2008 at 9:30am said...
hi i would say have the baby i had my little girl in a simiuliar mess i was 15 yrs old iam now twenty with an amazing daughter that brings so much love its hard to admite your mistakes but if he loves you he will stay if not look after you and baby x xx