My boyfriend and I both work and we have a 9-month-old baby together. Very rarely if the babysitter can’t come one of us will watch her. Today he had to watch her and it is always a huge job for him. He isn’t very good at being a parent and will get frustrated fast. I am the one who usually does all the work.
I wake up in the middle of the night, I get her ready, I bathe her, dress her, feed her and basically anything else she needs. All he does is play with her occasionally. Today after watching her while I was work we were talking in the kitchen and I was getting her stuff ready for bed. I was holding her and she was fussing and whining. He then proceeded to tell her, to her face, “why are you so annoying?”…”you’re so annoying”…I got extremely mad cause I felt like it was very disrespectful of him and it really shocked me that he would say that to her. He has a child with someone else, a 3yo and he has NEVER spoken to that child ever in that way.
I decided to bring it up to him and express my concern and he flipped on me and claimed that. If he had lived with his other child he would probably say the same things. But I know that’s bullshit. He can be verbally abusive towards me at times and now I feel like he is being verbally abusive towards her. I know she is too small to understand but that’s it very. unfather like to say to her sweet innocent face. What Should I do?