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Having an affair but can't leave marriage

Sat 31, Jan 2009 at 9:57am

I really need someone to put my life back on track, to turn me back into the mother and wife I once was... a year ago, all that matters to me was my family whom I took pride in and would do a lot f...

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7 months on and don't feel any better after betrayal....

Mon 16, Mar 2009 at 10:07am

.....if anything I feel worse as the more I think about it, the more deception I see! My husband had been seeing a friend of mine behind my back for months and he was also e-mailing a woman off ...

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I love my gf and I admit sometimes I can be annoying I have a bad habit of staring at every single girl especially if she is blonde I don't realise I am doing it but I will stare at a girl for a wh...

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My girlfreind recently dumped me and I dont know why.

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    10. My boyfriend chats to other girls on Facebook and hides it from me, then tells me I'm paranoid. Is this normal or is he up to something?

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      I've had a similar situation. You should definitely request answers from him. If he is just speaking to them because he is i.e. bored at work it is less worrying than if he does that during the time you and him are meant to spend time togehter.

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      be careful, he is cheating you,

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      he's up to something, if you just ignore this and carry on, he'll do it again and again ans one day you may up reading something you dont want to read. Dont let him do this to you, your dont deserve that, no-one does. Talk to him, dont moan or argue, make it clear that its you or he has change.

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      This sounds suspicious to me and I think he might up to something. Did you ask him why he isn't open about it and who the girls he is chatting to are? Maybe he is just trying to prevent an argument over nothing after all.

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    I love my partner but can't stop thinking about this other guy at work. Is it possible to forget him, or should I leave my partner for him?

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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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        If you say that you love you boyfriend but keep thinning about a guy at work, you need to figure out why. What is going on at home? When we are either unhappy or avoiding issues at home, it can make us look at situations around us and remember how simple things were in the beginning. Take time to really figure out what is going on for you here. If you love you boyfriend, you owe it to him (and you) to figure out what is going on and to try to resolve things. I know it's wonderful to be seduced by the romance of this other guy...but think about what you have and what you want before you act. Good luck.

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      Get to know the guy at work and you’ll probably realise your partner has many good qualities you have forgotten about.

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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      imagine not being with your partner, would you be happy? you may be going through a bad patch with your partner and this other guy may seem like an angel, dont tell your partner about this guy, imagine if it was the other way around, think carefully, whatever will make you happy.

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Don't leave your partner for this guy, it may just be a school girl/boy crush

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      Leaving your partner for this other guy is likely to be a mistake.

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    I've just discovered my partner looks at porn on the internet. I'm hurt as he promised he never would. Should I consider it cheating?

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      I am going through exactly the same with my partner. I first found out when i was nearly heavily pregnant with our daughter. he used to watch it before he went to work for 7am most mornings. i found the dvd he watched.another time i found his dirty tissue what he left under the coffee table! and then found out months later (after trying to regain my trust in him by never doing it again) that he watches it on the internet. I am always looking at his history on the computer to see what he has been looking at. sometimes he looks at sexy girls pics on facebook. I just dont know how to block feeling so betrayed by him, we are never close in the bedroom because of my mental issues with this

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      its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      It's horrible to discover but I wouldn't call it cheating. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him why he feels the need to do it. He may be able to reassure you.

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        its not cheating and tell him not to promise you if he cant keep it and explain how it makes you feel.

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      A promise is a promise …isn’t it?

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      No, but you definitely need to speak to him and tell him how you feel about this and the impact it will have on your relationship with him.

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