The Helping Process
Helping process – this insight explains the five stages of exploring, understanding, making plans, making changes, reviewing – that help us to improve our relationship.
thecoupleconnection.net has been designed to follow the helping process which enables people to work through relationship problems themselves. By using Check it Out, Talk it Out and Work it Out areas on the site your will be applying the Helping process to your relationship; helping yourself to improve it.
Video synopsis:
When we are worried, unhappy or unsure about something, it helps to use general information, expert relationship advice and the experiences of other people to explore what might be going on for us. As we explore our situation, we start to get a clearer understanding of what's really going on. We begin to recognise our feelings, how they shape our needs, and how those feelings influence what we do. Acknowledging feelings is a critical basis for working things out and making changes because we begin to recognise why we behave as we do and how that is helping or hindering us from achieving what we want.
Talking and listening to others who we trust because they know us well or have experience of dealing with kinds of relationship problems we are going through helps us to plan what we want to change, and how. The hardest part of the process can be putting your plans into action and making changes to your relationship. Being able to review the different stages in the helping process and see what has changed not only gives us a sense of achievement but it makes us better able to cope the next time a problem arises. So in summary, the helping process allows us to take a different perspective on our daily lives. This clearer view allows us to make plans and effect positive change in our lives which helps in avoiding relationship issues.
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Anonymous on 22 August 2008 at 11:51am said...
Wow. This is really good. She sounds a bit tinny on my computer and she speaks a bit fast but it made sense. Thanks
Anonymous on 22 August 2008 at 12:39pm said...
I have been trying to find something on domestic violence on this site and all i can see are heterosexual couples and generic fluffy comments on how to work at a relationship. Is this not potentially dangerous?
anonymousedad on 22 August 2008 at 2:17pm said...
Hi Anonymous at 12:39pm.
Did you read the "Is this site for me?" article or try searching for domestic violence? This explains who this site is for and who to contact if you are in an abusive relationship. If you're in trouble try www.broken-rainbow.org.uk for help.
Not sure what you feel is "dangerous" about the site. Seems to make sense to me.
Anonymous on 28 January 2009 at 8:27pm said...
Not sure
Anonymous on 28 April 2009 at 9:02pm said...
Is this site still active??
Anonymous on 24 May 2009 at 12:03am said...
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Copyright on 06 December 2009 at 4:24am said...
Hi! I am new to this maybe someone can help me guides me to this.
admin on 29 January 2010 at 4:23pm said...
Dear Copyright,
Could you clarify what you mean by 'guides me to this'. Do you mean guide you through the site or guide you to a specific piece of information?
Thanks
Admin
Mitra on 31 March 2010 at 11:40am said...
Hi,
I just joind this site by making a profile and an entry. However I don't clearly know yet that how does it work. Should I expect feedbacks from other users or any advice from experts. You probably know that usually desparate people find websites such as this through internet search and have little knowledge about that.
Thank you very much for your consideration
Jenny (a member of the Talk It Out team) on 31 March 2010 at 4:25pm said...
Dear Mitra, Have a look at the post you made on the Talk it Out section - there is a response, Jenny
shell29 on 24 May 2010 at 3:58am said...
hi need some info on what todo on a ex partner me and my ex split in jan this year because he was mentaly abusive towards me,ive got two children but they werent his,there from my previous marrage. my children would be wittness sometimes to his behavour towards me and shout and scream at me quite often infront of them we lived in a house together so one day when he was at work i packet mine and the childrens things and fled to a new home wiv the children ive still been seening him and weve still had problems and ive found out recently that he has txted my sister telling her he wishes he had got with her instead my sister never told me eather i had to go down his phone to find out.but the txt she sent him was telling him for his own sake she wouldnt tell me cos one id go mad and two cos she didnt want to hurt me shes nt that type of girl eather so i dont blame her, its all his doing he's put me thro hell and back so donno what to do about this my sister told him in the txt to leave me alone to get on with my life and she's nt touch him in a million years and that to save his bacon shed nt tell me do u think this is all right? and what should i do about him? confront him or leave it?
Charlie (a member of the Talk It Out team) on 24 May 2010 at 9:36am said...
This comment has been edited by a member of the "Talk It Out" team
Dear shell29,
Please would you repost this comment on the Talk It Out section where other users will be more likely to read it and make comments. Charlie